Who is in the Room?

A discussion about who should be in the room during mediation and the pros/cons of keeping the parties together.


  1. Michele Straube on January 31, 2010 at 1:11 pm

    Totally agree with you — even though it can be more stressful for the parties to stay together and work through the issues together, if there will be a long-term relationship, this is actually the gift that mediation can bring them — having the mediator model constructive discussion and serve almost as a coach for the parties to do the same. I find in my large group collaborations, the parties slowly learn how to problem-solve by having to sit in the same room and talk through issues.

    BTW, can I show this video blog session in my class?

  2. Kathy Elton on January 31, 2010 at 5:24 pm

    Thanks Michele, Of course you can use it in class:~)

  3. Sherri Hannon on February 14, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    I agree and think it’s especially useful to allow the parties to see each other being reasonable. Sometimes, when one of the parties doesn’t seem to be doing that, it is helpful to separate them to do a reality check and then bring them back together. When we leave the parties separate it really cuts off their potential. I think sometimes we separate people because we feel uncomfortable ourselves. This can have the effect of confirming the participants’ negative attitudes about each other.

  4. Mark Hales on April 21, 2010 at 12:17 pm

    I always prefer to be in the room together… but, I don’t mind it so much at Kathy’s because that means I just get to eat more food.